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How to build a strong and secure bond with your child

Your little small baby that you hold so close to your heart will one day grow up into a fine adult! As kids grow, their circle of influence and friends grow too. The initial 3- 6 years are tender and leave a fine imprint on their minds that lasts a lifetime. We , as parents, can work towards ensuring that the bond is strong and the trust – sturdy, between you and your beloved child. No matter what, the child should be able to walk up to you and confess and confide the whole world and whatever that is churning inside of him or her. Here are some of the things that will help in building and developing that sacred bond.

#1 Link emotionally with your childMy City woman's tips on how physically-connecting-with-your-child can help develop a strong bond

Something you may regard as trivial may mean a lot to your child. Look at things from his perspective too. A five year old will feel disappointed if everyone in his class has a certain eraser that he does not. He wants you to buy it – because he wants to a part of his clan and not feel left out. Understand his needs both from a physical as well as emotional point of view.

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Spending time with the child does not mean just being around – but has a larger meaning. Use this time to communicate – For instance, if you simplistically say what really drives you mad at work, your child too is likely to open up and state what is it that bothers him at school. Talk one on one and give his talks an importance too. It is important – because if it bothers your child, it may not be that vain. The idea is to have a two -way communication. Avoid asking too many direct questions, else you may not get any response whatsoever.

 

#3 Stop overreacting to your child’s faults

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Allow kids to have fun to develop a strong parent-child bonding

We too as kids used to be mischievous, some more, some a little less. Allow your child that liberty too – and from these let him learn and grow. Unless you learn to let go of harmless fun, your child will not trust you for more serious ones too. See this for an instance-

Ashi likes to play with water while brushing his teeth every night. Your repeated warnings are not helping either.  Do not take this to extreme levels where you reprimand him, do not talk to him and make a huge deal out of it. It may be annoying to tell him each night not to do it. Instead, next time peep through the door and give out a mischievous smile – you will surprise him too! Let him have his two minute of fun and slowly when he understands that it does not bother you and he can play, he will stop doing it too.

#4 Have a physical connect with your child

Nothing is more magical than a hug from your mother. Sometimes, words fail to express what you really want to say. Hug your child often. Give him a slight peck. Make eye contact when you speak with him. Put an arm around him when you want to. A positive body connect helps in reassuring the child that you are there for them whenever they need you. Of course do not over do it! Don’t be surprised to see your little one squirm as you go overboard with your hugs, especially in front of his friends!

#5 Do not filter out your stress onto your kids

Sometimes our reaction to their pranks, their talks and activities are not justified at all. We scream and shout and punish our kids. We say sorry and move on. It is in no way okay to let out our frustration and stress to them. If you are stressed, take a shower, have a hot cup of coffee – anything that may make you calmer will do. Avoid talking to kids when you know you are not at your best; else be prepared to regret it later.

A strong mature bond is not created in a day. Nor does it happen out of its virtue of you having given birth to the child. It takes years of patience and positive attitude to develop, nurture and sustain the faith your child can repose in you.

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