My City Woman's blog on how to deal with imposter syndrome

Do You Think You Deserve Success?

If the question hits at you, it is time to re-think your self-belief – not a time for introspection. More women believe they do not deserve to be at the space they are in. Why is that so? More women believe they lack the knowledge or skill to lead the new project they have been given to lead! Many women even attribute their success to luck.  This is also called as the imposter syndrome. “I am a fraud and people would soon find out the real me!”

It is time women change the way they think and place themselves ahead of what their heart or mind is screaming. Look at what these Hollywood stars have to say:

“I still think people will find out that I’m really not very talented.  I’m really not very good.  It’s all been a big sham.” – Michelle Pfeifer

“Sometimes I wake up in the morning before going off to a shoot, and I think, I can’t do this.  I’m a fraud.” – Kate Winslett

“She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can’t seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are- impostors with limited skills or abilities.”
― Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

Unreal, right?

If you think you lack the expertise or your are simply “not good enough” you need to take heart that you are not alone. Women generally step back if they think they “do not have it in them” to take up the challenging assignment ; Compared to men who think they would be able to learn on the job even if they do “know everything” from the start.

Now we tell you how to overcome this feeling that you are an imposter, a fraud waiting to be discovered, that you do not belong to the success you have got for yourself.

#It’s all in the mind

Doubting yourself, asking “Can I do this?” is okay. Do not let this feeling dominate your actions. Go ahead anyways. Pitch yourself for that project. Do what you perceive difficult, “beyond you”. Make it a habit and you will thrive despite the self-doubt.

#Journal positive feedback from people

Diligently make a record of all positive things people have said about you at work. Read them when you feel you are going through this imposter feeling. The positive affirmations will help you fight negativity within yourself and get ahead nevertheless. My City Woman's tips to deal with imposter syndrome

#Accept failure

Anyone can fail. Even the most celebrated people in their sphere of work fail at times. It doesn’t mean they are imposters. You can fail too. Tell yourself that just like success doesn’t make you a superhuman, failure doesn’t make you a fraud.

#Journal your hardships in life

Making a record of all hardships you have encountered in life and still got to the place where you are in today will make you realise that you deserve every bit of success you have got today. Its time to get stronger and feel stronger.

You can thrive in your career or profession despite the imposter syndrome. Let us know in the comments below of how you think you deal with it.


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