My City Woman's blog on how to bridge the confidence gap

Believe in yourself – Overcoming The Confidence Gap

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.” –Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Researchers have shown that women in general feel less secure and confident than men. The book The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt by Russ Haris is a strong case in this point. It is particularly disturbing because self confidence is the first step to being successful.  Be it taking on leadership position in an organization or pitching ahead for a project, self belief can be a game changer. How can women plug in this “confidence gap”? We get you the success mantra to a new confident you. Read on for more…

#1  Pen down your achievementsMy City Woman's blog on how to increase self-confidence

Whenever you achieve something, big or small, make a note of it in a diary. This would help you when you feel low. Read it when you feel low to feel better, turn around your thoughts and gain self belief.


#2 Surround yourself with positive people

Banish negativity around you. Talk to people who make you feel better and know your true potential. Friends and family are a solace and boost your morale when you feel low and keep you motivated.


My City Woman's blog on how trusting yourself increases self-confidence#3 Read motivational quotes and books of inspiring personalities

Books are the truest friends. Read books on how people overcame the worst of challenges and came out a winner. This would help you gain more confidence in yourself and re-affirm self-belief.



#4 Meet new people

Go out and meet more people. The world is full of achievers. They can be your mentors too. You may simply network with people to know more about them. This may re-new your thinking and belief in yourself. There are people who have defied all odds to achieve what they have in their lives. Meet them and get inspired.


#5 Do an activity you like

You know that in hearts of heart that it is just a phase. Tomorrow will bring new hope and the passion to do more. It is a phase when you think” I cannot do this!” Break away from the activity or person that makes you feel that way for a while. Maybe you are stressing  yourself too much over it. Indulge in an activity you love and makes you happy. Playing a musical instrument, singing, listening to music, reading a book are just some of the ways to take a productive break. And while you are away, the introspection time may lead you to a new solution to the problem and help you turn around your thoughts to a more positive tone.


#6 Keep at itMy City Woman's tips to boost your self confidence

Practice what makes you feel lacking. If you find public speaking difficult, make it a point to talk in from of a group of people – each time and every time. Soon it would become  a habit for you and it may not scare you that much. Practice whatever causes fear in you. Master it. Read about it, take help from people around you, take tutorials if you have too. And it would give you a greater sense of self worth than anything else. Purse it to the end and chase away your fear!


#7 Practice saying positive things to yourself

Learn to re-affirm positive things to yourself. This would give a huge boost to your self confidence and make you feel secure. Say things like ” I might take a bit longer, but I can manage it”; “I have done it before, I can do it again”; “I know I struggle with it each time but let me try”

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